- by Broadway0474, Blogger
- 7/30/2014 1:18:47 PM
I'm ok with someone considering me anti-social - it is the truth after all! You could try the meditation time approach, or maybe even just ignore the person completely until they take the hint haha.
- 7/30/2014 1:06:11 PM
It's been my experience that if someone wants to talk to you they are going to talk to you, regardless of whatever tactic you're deploying to avoid conversation. I once spent an entire plane ride to London talking to this English girl because she nudged me while I was watching TV with headphones on and began the conversation. The best thing you can do in those situations is give one word answers and try to defuse the conversation before it gains enough momentum haha.
- 7/30/2014 1:03:52 PM
Haha, well said. I don't know how people like that do it, but they can talk with or without the other person actually contributing to the conversation. I would say that you and I are in the majority of commuters with regard to mentality: most people just want to get to their home/work and get through their day with as little distraction as possible.
- 7/30/2014 10:27:38 AM
LOL @Broadway how do you signal you don't want to talk? Do you plug in earphone? Pretend to sleep? I think just opening a book is not enough b/c some people regard that as a conversation starter: "What are you reading?"
- by Broadway0474, Blogger
- 7/29/2014 10:55:30 PM
@Ariella, it is interesting how the plane works. There are definitely people who get on board with the assumption that good conversation will be had with the people next to them, and they get disappointed if that doesn't happen (ie, if they sit next to me!).
- 7/29/2014 5:09:30 PM
Yeah, I find that the random commuters are the most likely candidates for violating commuting etiquette. I wouldn't say that cellphones are the big problem (although I love the people that talk as loudly as possible into their phones on a quiet train), oddly enough it's the groups of people on those 5 seaters (assuming you have them in your city). They talk as loudly as possible about the most uninteresting garbage. Just the other day I listened to some pretentious people get into a whole political debate on the train that was so loud that people (myself included) actually shifted a car over to get away from it.
- 7/29/2014 5:08:08 PM
@Broadway yes, most daily commuters are not up for conversation. It's an interesting thing in light of the attempt to let people fly next to LinkedIn connections. The assumptions seems to be that on a plane you're more open to meeting the person next to you than on the ground.